How to raise a child so that he is happy and fulfilled? What are the methods to adopt so that he enjoys the best education possible and help him to confront his future life? These are the questions most parents ask themselves, especially when they are confronted by noisy, active and emotional children.
It is important to emphasize, first of all, that a normal child remains a child who cries, cries, expresses his emotions and his joy; it is the definition of a happy child who is at the age of discovery and experimentation. A child needs to learn, play and invent by appealing to his imaginary world to create stories that will bring joy to his life. A child lives in the present moment and does not care about tomorrow. He wants to enjoy every moment by expressing his feelings, in his own way and he does not mind the inconvenience he causes to his parents or his entourage.
A new phenomenon has emerged, however, and one of the most worrying is the “phobia of the child“. It is a movement that has emerged in the United States and the United Kingdom. For a while, we have witnessed the birth of a special type of accommodation that refuses the presence of children in certain sites, so that guests are not disturbed by the cries and the night crying of the children and during the moments of relaxation by the swimming pool. The same phenomenon occurs in some restaurants so that guests can enjoy a moment of peace and serenity during their meals.
This movement puzzles and prompts us to think: Have we lost our empathy, our understanding, our compassion and our love for children to get to this point? Did we forget that we ourselves were noisy, boisterous and full of life children and that it was a vital need for our balance.
These children who disturb in public spaces
Experiences have been experienced by many people, including mothers, who have been singled out in public spaces for noisy children. These mothers were called bad mothers who did not know how to educate their children and who did not behave properly with them. What is obvious is that most do not remember anymore that babies cry and move and that is part of their nature.
The truth about these stigmatized ideas
A child is born with his character and his own personality. There are restless children and others quieter; parents’ education is not necessarily the cause of the child’s agitation. Children have their own language to communicate with those around them and it is not always for the pleasure of parents who find themselves, sometimes overwhelmed. As a result, we need to show a minimum of empathy and compassion for those parents who do their best to educate their toddlers.
A happy child is a child who runs, shouts and catches the attention of others. He was not born to be a loner, jaded and indifferent to life; it would not be normal in this case.
Putting pressure on a child who shouts or expresses himself would be tantamount to inhibiting his ability to enchant, to know, to experiment and to happiness.
Let the child fully live his childhood
- It is necessary to let the child express himself and discover his own abilities and satisfy his curiosities of learning, provided he is supervised and protected from all danger , to show him the good and the bad side of each thing.
- It is important to let him play to reduce his anxiety, tension and release his creativity.
Limits to the education of the child
According to the teacher and coach, Kim Payne, we must avoid educating our children in the excess of information, choice and speed and rather encourage them to go out, breathe the air and keep them away from the world. technology that monopolizes them and destroys their creative potential. We must let them run, shout and express their joy as their anger. They will have all their life to settle and stay calm without disturbing.
Let us have compassion for those brave parents who do their best to make their offspring the next generation and empathize with those children who are just waiting to express their innocence .